I'd said in "Nothing Is Totally Good Or Bad" that "As an afterthought to attaining success at a price, what's the point in giving up what is valueless (principles, relationships etc) for what is valued (by society)? Many sacrifice their time with themselves, with family, with friends for work. Like ET, who was top, pushed away all her friends in her bid for success. During her climb to the top, she pushed away her friends. After the climb, she realised she'd no friends and was depressed. But by then, how many friends had she left for she'd pushed them away?"
Today I found out that ET didn't complete her Uni education and according to a friend, "put on lots of weight". She'd fallen into depression. Right now, she seems fine. But it's a pity that ET didn't complete her Uni education because she definitely has the brains and also leadership quality.
Even though I can't say I'm close to ET now, I was still concerned when I heard that something'd happened to her. I guess that deep inside, she is still my old friend.
I started thinking about being average. I am thankful that I am average, not too smart/intelligent like ET, not too hardworking nor too pragmatic like ET who pushed away all her friends in the climb for success. Em felt it was just a moment of neglect. But I felt abandoned. If I become another ET, my friends might feel that sense of abandonment which I felt.
Anyway, ET, once the student councillor of her JC, once the head prefect of her Sec school, once the assistant head prefect of her Pri school, president of choir in her Sec school, group leader of her Pri school camp, was just too smart/intelligent, too capable, too diligent, too pragmatic, too ________. I never thought she'd never finish her Uni studies. It just didn't occur to me. In fact, I have such a good opinion of her I saw her as a career woman, some president of some company. I never thought anything bad could happen to her. Makes you realize how vulnerable humans are.
I am thankful I am average. In life, there is always a balance. The higher you go, the smarter you are, the better off you are as compared with the rest of the population, the worse the fall is when it comes. WHEN it comes, not IF it comes. Life is not a bed of roses. There are ups and downs in life. You may be better off in 1 way but worse off in another way. I am thankful I don't have too much. Otherwise, there's too much to lose. I'm thankful I'm not too smart. I don't want depression even though I've experienced it before. I'm thankful I don't have some things but are blessed with others. I'm thankful that even though I'm not rich, but compared to the rest of the world, I have food to eat. I'm thankful I am studying in a Uni now as compared to some who don't have this chance.
It's funny how unappreciative people are and what complainers they are until they see others worse than them. That's when we take stock of our life and say "Hey, I'm actually pretty okay where I am."
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1 comment:
I think I know what you actually mean, but I do want to point out something.
I wouldn't link intelligence to depression directly. Average people like us - yourself, myself, Amy we all got (or are having) depression at some point in time.
I think its really a matter of stress and circumstances. People can get depression for all kinds of reasons - simply a result of bad, untenable situations in our lives that we feel hopeless about.
Being driven just shows how much doing well meant to her. It could be a factor for her success but could also bring her down if she cannot withstand the pressure.
I think what you are referring to is spirit of humility and a balanced perspective - that helps to keep people grounded i.e. no depression.
I agree with that. I think there are highly intelligent people who are grounded, and humble about life. I think these people are less vulnerable to internal/ external stress, excess of pride, unrealistic expectations and overall, depression.
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