Love, (Hurt,) Hate

"I Knew I Loved You Before I Met You...". This is 1 of Savage Garden's songs. Is it possible to love someone before meeting that person? There's love at first sight though.

Loving entails sacrifice and exposing yourself to hurt and possibly hate. The deeper you love, the more intense the emotions are. When hurt and hate arrive, so too are they deep. The reverse is also true. If one has hated deeply before experiencing love, when love touches him, it'll transform him. Conversely, if one shies away from love when love approaches, he'll never feel love and subsequently, no hurt and hate.

It seems that everyone talks of love and hate as opposites and 2 separate and mutually exclusive matters. Yet, it's possible for love and hate to co-exist. When one loves, and there's hurt, hate forms as a product of that love. One then experiences a love-hate relationship.

It is also true that love can stand apart from hate/hatred. One can love another so much that there's no room for hate. Or there may be someone who sees fit to be nasty to you each time you meet so you naturally hate him.

Ms KAK said that love from humans is NEVER unconditional. (Guess that's why we get hurt.) Even love from our parents is conditional. I suppose it's conditional upon our obedience to them. Elan said that her parents love her because they need to but they'll drag her down. To love someone because you need to is not a good reason for loving. Or should I say it's not the BEST reason since most of us love because of the NEED to love and feel loved. The BEST reason for loving someone would be loving that person for what he is. To love because of a need implies that the love is tempered with a selfishness. Love in its purest and truest form shouldn't cause any hurt. Right? But what about grieving for a loved one who's passed on? Then there are also those who do silly things in the name of love. They scheme and plot to get a love that doesn't belong to them, although the more straightforward kind would be: If you don't love me, I'm jumping off this rooftop.

虎不食子. I do not understand why some parents can be so cruel to their children, their flesh and blood. Some parents abandon their children when the babies are born. Others don't treat their children well even though they do bring up the child. Why then have a child if you don't intend to take good care of him? I don't know if that's warped love or the absence of love. I wonder how true it is that if a person is not very loved as a child, he's not able to give out that much love when he grows up. Vicious cycles shouldn't be perpetrated but should be broken instead.